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Today I present to you my Audiomentary called Behind Closed Doors. The song track you hear is from Christina Aguilera titled “I'm Okay”.  The Audiomentary is about the violent abuse her mother and Christina endured for many years by her father, and how she was affected by the abuse.

These poems were written by survivors of domestic abuse. They reflect their fear,

pain, confusion, grief, and other emotions experienced as a result of domestic violence. 

The Black Velvet Glove

The hardest to bear isn't the slap or the shove,

It's the sting of the words, like a black velvet glove.

It tears at your soul and your heart cracks in two,

What you've become is not really you.

You know that you're good, and you know that you're kind,

But you feel like you're going out of your mind.

The look of disgust, the names and the sneers,

Has this really been going on all these years?

It started so small, just a fight... some name calling,

You couldn't see the black hole into which you were falling.

He took all your dignity, who you were, and your pride,

In your shame and your pain, all you could do was hide.

Hide the fact that the man who promised you love,

Took it back and replaced it with the black velvet glove.

By: "C"

Stop The Violence

Written in celebration of my freedom and dedicated to a face from the past.

She was a shell

Empty and alone

Where could she go?

Who could she tell?

Was easier to stay

To accept defeat

Everyone told her

That's the way it should be.

They all looked away

and left her alone

they turned their heads

to any broken bones

They told her to be strong

for that was the plan

Her only goal

should be to please her man

She did her best

She gave it her all

When asked "What happened?"

She said

"Oh, Just a fall"

Years went by

she learned to adapt

she learned how not

to make him mad

She learned how to please

Just what to say

She learned to make sure

HE had a good day

Those looking on could not see?

Would not see?

The pain that was so deep inside of me

Was it easier to just look away?

Distance and time

closed for me

there was a hand that

could be reached

A hand with a face

from the past

A hand that only for a

short time would last

I held on to that hand

with all my might

I pulled myself up

I learned how to fight

A year has past

And now I see

just how wonderful

life should be

~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~ . ~

 Voices to stop domestic violence is my latest audiomentary.

During the years there has been shows  like Oprah, Montel Williams, Access Hollywood, and Entertainment Tonight, juust to mention a few that have produced many shows on this topic of domestic abuse.

The guests that have appeared to speak out have been been robin Gibbons a victim of domestic violence, Jennifer Alba who is involved in an organization called v day, and public activist Kevin Powell has become

a very outspoken critic of violence against women and girls

With their voices I have created a strong message that its time to end this vicious cycle of abuse.

If you know someone whom you think is being abused - a friend, family member, co-worker,

client, - please consider contacting one of the agencies listed

below 

1. What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is abuse that happens in a personal relationship. It can happen

between past or current partners, spouses, or boyfriends and girlfriends.

Domestic violence affects men and women of any ethnic group, race, or religion; gay

or straight; rich or poor; teen, adult, or elderly. But most of its victims are women.

In fact, 1 in 4 women will be a victim at some point.

Read on http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/tc/domestic-violence-topic-overview

2. National Statistics

1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime.

Both men and women can be victims of domestic violence, but by far, the majority

of survivors are women. In 2001, women accounted for 85 percent of the victims of

intimate partner violence (588,490 total) as compared to 15 percent for men victims.

To continue http://www.centeragainstdv.org/what/statistics/index.html

3. The effects of domestic violence on children

Domestic violence affects every member of the family, including the children. Family

violence creates a home environment where children live in constant fear.

Children who witness family violence are affected in ways similar to children who

are physically abused.. They are often unable to establish nurturing bonds with either

parent Children are at greater risk for abuse and neglect if they live in a violent

home.

For more  http://www.acadv.org/children.html

4. Ten Warning Signs

of an Abusive Relationship. 

1. History of discipline problems.

2.Blames you for his/her anger.

3. Serious drug or alcohol use.

4. History of violent behavior.

5. Threatens others regularly.

Learnmore tips  http://www.jenniferann.org/dating_violence_risks.htm

5. Kevin Powell  is widely considered one of America’s most important voices in these

early years of the 21st century.

 He is a political activist, poet, journalist, essayist, hip hop historian,

public speaker, and entrepreneur. Kevin has become

a very outspoken critic of violence against women and girls, of violence in general,

and he has been at the forefront of the movement to redefine American manhood away

from sexism and violence.

Given all the hype and controversy around Chris Brown's alleged beating of Rihanna, Kevin  has posted  an essay that he has written  all about male violence against females.

Read post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kevin-powell/rihannachris-brown-ending_b_166367.html

6. How to Help Someone who is Experiencing Domestic Violence

This information is gender-specific because that is the reality of domestic

violence relationships.

Read on https://www.msu.edu/~safe/facts/how_to_help.htm

7. Staying Safe

This web site will provide tips for keeping yourself and your family members safe, in various

situations and stages of abuse.

Get more info http://www.womenslaw.org/simple.php?sitemap_id=3

8. If you need help or know someone who does, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline

at 800-799-SAFE and learn more at http://www.ndvh.org/

9. Men Stopping Violence: Educating and Advocating for Change

http://www.menstoppingviolence.org/index.php

10. Loveisrespect.org

 The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline provides resources and

support to teens, parents, friends, family and the general public, including a 24-hour

telephone helpline and a website. Designed to help address teen dating abuse, the

website offers expert advice, peer counseling, information and other support services.

http://www.loveisnotabuse.com/

11. Verizons HopeLine Phone Program.

The HopeLine phone recycling program collects and donates wireless phones & equipment

to assist victims of domestic violence.

Find current HopeLine partners and learn how Verizon Wireless works with elder abuse

prevention and law enforcement agencies.

http://aboutus.vzw.com/communityservice/hopeLinePartnerships.html

12. Are you searching for a place where you can become everything that you were meant

to be? Womensselfesteem.com

offers Self-confidence and self-help tips & strategies! We deal with

emotional issues

 such as jealousy, abuse, fear, alcoholism, addiction,

stress

, toxic relationships,

body image

 and more.You will find real life stories from women that have been there and survived

it. Find out more http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html

13. Tune in to hear a wonderful show called My Life My Soul hosted by Yvette Attaud-Jones on Blog Talk Radio.

P.S.A. Message http://lifesavers.fileave.com/My%20Life%20My%20Soul.mp3

The show is about The Unspoken Journey Of Life After Domestic Abuse

Click to listen http://www.blogtalkradio.com/mylifemysoul   

14. The Mayor's Office to Combat Domestic Violence (OCDV) and the Department of Youth

and Community Development (DYCD) have teamed up to educate young people on dating

violence in New York City.

http://www.nyc.gov/html/ocdv/html/home/home.shtml

15. Recommended Reading

This list of books, which can be found at your local library, can help victims, their

families, and friends with resources to support themselves and one another through

difficult situations.

http://www.cafelaw.com/domviolbks.html

Books & Videos on Domestic Violence

http://www.snbw.org/books.htm

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I'm so glad to announce that this year www.bloggle.me  has teamed up with blogger unite to bring awareness to this epicdemic problem of domestic violence that is happening to families all across america , and beyond.  As a together we can change the world ambassador i immediately jumped on board with www.bloggersunite.org  to support them   with this project, and help get the word out. This is my mission to make a difference in the world 

I haven’t directly been a victim but at the same time I feel that I’ve lived the physical, emotional, and mental abuses from the heartbreaking stories of my best friend who has been the victim of domestic violence for such a very long time.

This topic of domestic violence really hits home for me because for many years i  have seen my  very   best friend who i love as a sister  live  with this violence in her own life.  What I've noticed during all these years is that there are different faces of abuse and all of them are destructive which in the end destroy many families.

The terrible fears i have is one day to turn on the news and hear that someone had been killed over a domestic dispute and for that victim to be my friend.

Moreover, what so sad is how the children are affected mentally as well as emotionally.  Experts on this topic have said that the children exposed to this kind of violence in the home usually act out the same negative behaviors in their own  relationship.

It’s time to break the silence to break this vicious cycle of domestic vilence once and for all.  We need your help to win this fight.  On Saturday I will like to present to the blogger unite community and my subscribers of posterous several Audiomentaries that I have created Called behind closed doors and Voices by N.V.R. Productions.

Parents  discretion is  advised.  Strong language may not be suitable for children.

please join us  in supporting domestic  violence this saturday may 9 at

http://www.bloggersunite.org/event/domestic-violence-awareness-day

The posting of my Audiomentaries will go live  at  3:00 pm est.

Domestic violence should not happen to anybody, ever.

Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just once;

maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused right now.

Whatever the situation it is   Saturdays Bloggle post and My Audiomentary will provide you how and where to get help.   

Stay Tuned!

        A message from an anonymous survivor  http://lifesavers.fileave.com/anonymous%20survivor.mp3

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Here is a very profound song from Pink called Family Portrait that I would like to share with you today which relates to Domestic Violence. The story in this song is about  living the nightmare of Domestic violence through the childrens  eyes, and how it has affected them emotionally.

Food for Thought

“We can all take responsibility for helping to bring about change, and keeping our
friends and colleagues safe from domestic violence”

Domestic Violence is everbodys business

Share a smile with those who are sad.